In this delicately made yet powerful film, two intersex people in South Africa — one a beauty queen, the other an activist — seek to discover and embrace themselves as they truly are, not as the world would have them. Executive produced by Academy Award winner Patricia Arquette, Who I Am Not is a moving, funny, and illuminating doc that gives voice and agency to an underrepresented community within the LGBTQ+ spectrum.

Over the course of five years, director Tünde Skovrán garnered a trust with her subjects that made way for moments of raw honesty and powerful vulnerability that we don’t often seen on camera. Sharon-Rose and Dimakatso are intersex, an umbrella term for persons born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn’t seem to fit the typical definitions of “female” or “male.” Dissimilar in their outward presentation and their personal histories, they provide knowing support to one another. As they navigate their own decisions and revelations, it’s clear that these are just two unique journeys touching on many of the same issues: identity, family relations, health, romance, and ultimately self-acceptance.